Get to Know Me
A Few Words…
I have always been fascinated with the mind and how it relates to the varying levels of our well-being, relationships, money and success. Coming from a family business background I have grown up with all the challenges and rewards that it presented. I was also exposed to the emotional and financial impact it had on my family, and experienced the inner conflicts and struggles it created for my siblings and myself.
I believe that what I have experienced as a result of my family’s business, has led me to develop a desire to understand the effects that money and wealth have on us all. This is one of the reasons I became a psychologist, and undertook a PhD, in the hope of better understanding the impact it on our emotional, mental, spiritual and financial well being – and how through growth and development we can become aware of it and its meaning.
My academic curiosity opened the door to my professional journey in this field, when 18 years ago, Anthony Yadgaroff, the founder and CEO of the established London based financial firm Allenbridge, approached me to head their private client’s advisory practice.
Later on I started my own company in Los Angels, and was fortunate enough to work with people from all over the world on issues related to money, wealth, relationships and well being. As time progressed, I noticed that many successful and intelligent people who have almost everything money can buy, shared that at times they experience a sense of “amiss”, “emptiness” or inner dissatisfaction, but are not able to explain why.
How can this be? Isn’t money the single most transformational substance in our society? It is seductive, attractive, fascinating, and perceived as greatly desirable. It is everyone’s dream.
The answer is simple: unknown to them, their relationship with money or success is skewed…
Despite this, the industrial revolution, the development of capital markets and the arrival of the information age have made wealth attainable by ever larger numbers of people and beguiled us even more.
But the truth is that money without meaning is like water without a container, or a fire that is out of control; both are destructive. Much to my surprise many of these destructive behaviors and attitudes have become acceptable in our society and are therefore considered normal!
In looking at the opportunities and pitfalls of money, success or fame, I have observed that many people do not “control” the experience of it, but are rather “allowing it to control them”, which results in negative impact on personal and professional aspects of their lives.
It has become clear that many intelligent, highly accomplished people have experienced challenges caused by their financial status due to an unhealthy or unbalanced relationship with money, success or fame. As the second generation of a family business, I also had to learn about my relationship with money and how it affected my beliefs, attitudes and behavior.
In discovering the hidden patterns behind our relationship with money, fame or achievements, I have developed a way to help people look into themselves and allow deeper conversations to rise to the surface. These may include exploring the true meaning of wealth, discovering one’s life purpose, understanding the emotional aspects of estate planning, improving family communication or personal relationships, learning how to emotionally prepare the next generation to be responsible custodians, or learning how our attitudes, feelings and behaviors regarding various facets of money or wealth impact our lives. Exploring these areas allow clients to get past their current mindset and see things in a different way – a way that enable them to bring more balance and harmony into their lives.
I believe that growth and change are an integral part of life, no matter where we come from. Our responsibility is to embrace it and focus on who we wish to be, and where we want to go. The more equipped we are mentally and emotionally, the easier and more pleasant it becomes.
I look forward to the opportunity of working with you,
Roni(t) Meshie Mai Lami