Get to Know Me
A Few Words…
I have always been fascinated with the mind and how it relates to the varying levels of our well-being, relationships, money and success. Coming from a family business background I have grown up with all the challenges and rewards that it presented. I was also exposed to the emotional and financial impact it had on my family, and experienced the rewards as well as the inner conflicts it created.
I believe that what I have experienced as a result of my family’s business, has led me to develop a desire to understand the effects that money and wealth have on us all. This is one of the reasons I undertook my M.Sc. in Organizational Psychology and a PhD in Clinical Psychology, in the hope of better understanding the impact it has on our emotional, mental, and financial well being – and how through growth and development we can become aware of it and its meaning.
My academic curiosity opened the door to my professional journey in this field, when 18 years ago, Anthony Yadgaroff, the founder and CEO of the established London based financial firm Allenbridge, asked me to head their private client’s advisory practice. Later on I started my own company in Los-Angeles, and was fortunate enough to work with people from all over the world on issues related to money, wealth, relationships and well being.
As time progressed, I have noticed that many successful and intelligent people and families who have almost everything money can buy, share that they experience challenges relating to their wealth, success or statues beyond investments, succession, governance structure or wealth preservation. At times they even experience a sense of “amiss”, “emptiness” or inner dissatisfaction, but are not able to explain why.
“How can this be?” They have asked. Isn’t money the single most transformational substance in our society? It is attractive and perceived as greatly desirable? Isn’t it everyone’s dream? Why do we experience these feelings?”
The answer is simple: unknown to them, their relationship with money or success is skewed or unbalanced… as many people do not “control” the experience of having money, success or fame, but are rather “allowing it to control them”, which results in negative impact on personal and professional aspects of life… why? because money without meaning is like water without a container, or a fire that is out of control; both are destructive.
Looking within ourselves and start asking some difficult questions, deeper conversations rise to the surface, which open the doors of opportunity that have been closed for a long time. For example: what is the true meaning of my wealth, how do I raise my children to be responsible custodians of their wealth, how do I take into account the emotional impact my estate planning will have on my children, what is my parenting style or my relationship with my spouse and children, as well as learning how attitudes, feelings and behaviors shape my life and who I am. Allowing deeper conversations, help us see things differently and therefore act in a way that enables us to resolve challenges and bring more balance and harmony into our lives.
I believe that growth and change are integral part of life, no matter where we come from. Our responsibility is to embrace it and focus on who we wish to be, and where we want to go. Life is an ongoing journey with its joys as well as its challenges. The more equipped we are the more pleasant it becomes.
I look forward to the opportunity of working with you,
Roni(t) Meshie Mai Lami